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Individual + Relationship Therapy for Millennials

You’ve made it to adulthood and life may not feel the way you thought it would.

The things you always wanted for yourself might seem too far out of reach or perhaps you have reached some goals but it doesn’t feel like you imagined. Some of the things that seemed like a given to your parents’ generation, are harder for you to attain and you start to wonder, “are those things that I actually want?” You feel bound by the expectations of other people or old beliefs that don’t actually fit your values anymore. On the outside you’re checking most of the boxes but on the inside you keep wondering if you’re doing this adulthood thing right. What you really want is to feel more at home in yourself and secure in your relationships.

I help millennial clients break free from repeating unhelpful patterns in their lives by showing them how to give themselves the care they really need.

Who are my clients?

While my clients are are all unique individuals, they tend to struggle with the same types of things:

• They are coming to terms with the fact that their adult life feels different than they thought it would. They want to make life decisions that align with their values rather than other people’s expectations…but they also don’t want to disappoint anyone.

• They want to be more fully known in their friendships and partnerships. They know that deeper intimacy is possible but they are afraid of letting people see them as they really are.

• They are fearful of recreating family patterns. Most are aware that their families and cultural environment instilled a lot of beliefs in them that just don’t fit with their current values but they still find themselves slipping into old behaviors.

• They want to feel more comfortable in their body. Many are working to heal from diet culture in an environment that promotes it at every turn. On some level they believe (or want to believe) in body acceptance but they don’t know how to truly be okay with the body they have.

Above all, they are tired of feeling like they should always be doing something differently or better in order to feel okay about themselves. 

What’s a Millennial, anyway?

If you don’t really embrace the term “millennial,” I get it. It makes sense to have a complicated relationship with the term given all the ways people describe us. Also, no one can seem to decide how old millennials are. Put simply, I specialize in working with clients between the ages of 25ish-40ish. As a millennial myself, I understand the very unique challenges we face and I have expertise in treating the types of mental health concerns millennials bring into therapy.

My clients don’t just want skills, they want transformation. They follow the instagrams, read the books and listen to the podcasts but they struggle to implement those things into their lives. Many are trying to “do self-care” but realize that there is something more they need. They want to feel deeply connected to themself and others. They want to feel freedom with food and movement. They want to figure out how to actually set boundaries and stop people-pleasing. They want to feel more secure in themselves and their relationships. They want to embrace their desires.

Is it “bad enough” for therapy?

If you are like my clients, on the outside you probably appear to others like everything is okay but on the inside you are suffering. You might keep telling yourself that your problems aren’t “serious enough” for therapy.  In fact, my clients often end up being the person who listens to and supports others even though they have a lot going on inside. They champion boundaries and self-care for their friends but have no idea how to do those things themselves.

Something has tipped them off to the fact that things aren’t quite right. Maybe they have noticed that they feel lost or on edge but can’t pinpoint exactly why. Maybe they have been isolating or withdrawing from their partner, family, or friends. Maybe they just feel uncomfortable in their skin or are struggling with negative self-talk and imposter syndrome. 

You are a capable and resourceful person. If you could “fix it” all on your own or think your way out of it, you would have by now. None of us are meant to figure this out on our own and it doesn’t mean you’re a failure if you need a little support, just that you’re human. Click below to read more about the “not bad enough” phenomenon.

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